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How to Stay Calm During Turbulent Times

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Empowerment Radio ArchiveDo you find that we’re living in interesting, some may even call it, crazy times? Adolescent-like politicians, rigged sports-events, cheating auto-makers and an unprecedented inequality of wealth distribution are just a few examples that can make us wonder, whether the world is going topsy-turvy.

Almost 20 years ago, one of my great teachers, Yogi Bhajan, predicted that we will go through a time, where human mankind seems to be divided between those who are striving for power, profit and control – and those who are living from a place of compassion, equality and care.

He reminded us that although it may be tempting to react, resist and forcefully reject those we don’t agree with, the most important thing we have to do right now is to stay calm, centered and peaceful within ourselves.

I know, this may sound easier said than done, which is why I invite you to listen to this episode of Empowerment Radio with the amazing Debbie D’Aquino, best-selling author of “Calm is the New Happy, How to get there in 5 minutes.”  Join Debbie and me to learn more about how you can have peace and calmness on a daily basis.


Listen to this episode on Empowerment Radio


Tuesday, March 22nd, 2016 Dr. Friedemann, Mind-Body-Spirit, Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment, Positive Thinking Comments Off on How to Stay Calm During Turbulent Times

New Beginnings

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I don’t know, if it is because my star-sign is cancer or if it has to do with growing up with parents, who were filling their house to the brim with admittedly beautiful things, but letting go hasn’t been my fortitude. I stayed in jobs and relationships longer than I should have; I stuck with routines, although I didn’t really enjoy them any more; I even once thought we should buy the house we rented, although it was too small and had a lot of problems, just because somehow I had become used to it.

Over the years and with the help of Danielle, who prefers a more Zen-like simplicity in life, I began to appreciate that everything needs at some point to come to an end.

I have been with the Dr. Pat once per month for almost 10 years. It has been a wonderful journey. I so appreciate Dr. Pat and her team for all the great shows we did together. While being on her show has allowed me to share my work with countless people around the globe, Dr. Pat’s warmth and ability to make her co-hosts feel welcome and special, has always been an inspiration to me. So you can imagine that it was difficult for me to decide, that now is the time to let go.

Wednesday, January 20th will be the last show with Dr. Pat, which fittingly will be all about letting go and opening up to new opportunities and beginnings. 

For me that new beginning is to start my own show –Empowerment Radio: Breakthrough Solutions for Confident Living. It will air every first and third Wednesday of the month from 11 to noon Pacific time. I am very excited about this new endeavor and will share more with you before the first show on February 3rd.

Monday, January 18th, 2016 Mind-Body-Spirit, Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment, Positive Thinking Comments Off on New Beginnings

A New Beginning

Today is the beginning of a brand-new year. How do you enter into 2016? With hope and good intentions? With dread and worry, feeling already weighed down by last year’s baggage? Or are you just indifferent, because you don’t expect much to change?

Although in reality not much changes on January 1st, the transition from one year to the next offers us an opportunity to reflect on the past and create goals for the next 12 months.  This day also invites us to remember the impermanence of life and the preciousness of every moment.

Imagine you had $29200 to spend for the rest of your life, without the possibility to increase that amount? What would you do? You probably wouldn’t carelessly waste your money, but instead value each dollar and deliberately choose how to use it. You may also be more mindful on what you are able to purchase and savor those things with greater appreciation. An average life-span of 80 years consists of 29200 days, which to me doesn’t seem like a lot. But how mindful are you with spending this most precious commodity in life, called time?

Most of us prefer to ignore the fact that our lives have an expiration date. Rather than considering each day as a gift and a privilege, we go through the motions often driven by stress, anxiety and obligations. Overwhelm and over-stimulation makes us want to shut down and become numb. The fear of not being good enough or fitting in, makes us focus more on other people’s expectations than our own dreams and desires. As a result life becomes a matter of just getting through it, rather than taking ownership of it. Or as someone once said: “Everybody tries to kill time, but no one wants to die.

So today, on you could ask yourself these simple questions:

  • How can I bring more joy and purpose into my daily life?
  • What am I putting on hold or not allowing myself to do, have or be?
  • If my life would be over tomorrow, what would I regret the most?
  • Which aspects of my life need more attention to make it more meaningful and fulfilling?

Be kind and compassionate with yourself; these questions aren’t meant to beat yourself up, but to inspire you to make 2016 the year where you started to reclaim your birthright to live and embrace YOUR life.

I have decided to make some significant changes in my life, which I will tell you more about in the near future.

My team and I wish you a blessed new year, with an abundance of health, joy, peace and love.

Thursday, January 7th, 2016 Mind-Body-Spirit, Positive Thinking Comments Off on A New Beginning

What are your priorities for the holidays?

Is the holiday season also one of the most stressful times of the year for you?  You spend an inordinate amount of time and money at the shopping malls hunting for gifts that at the end of nobody remembers.  You to get the house ready and decorated before the extended family arrives. You live on cookies, coffee and hot cider.  Sleep is an afterthought.  You feel more and more stressed, irritated and overwhelmed. And secretly you cannot wait for “the most special time of the year” to be over.

This was pretty much how my mother used to prepare for Christmas until she was in her seventies.  Only one year, she allowed her children to help her – and herself to not have everything perfect.  That Christmas time seemed to have slowed down, probably because we were more in the present.  Whether we cooked, ate, cleaned or just sat together, for some reason we all were conscious of the preciousness of each moment.  We shared old stories, laughed about each other’s annoying and yet endearing quirks.  And at times we just remained silent, listening to Christmas carols and the wood crackling in the fireplace.  This was the first time since my childhood that I had felt the magic of the season again.  And this was the last Christmas we all spent together, since my parents both died just a few months later.

You may have watched the Christmas commercial of a German supermarket chain.  If not here it is – just make sure to have tissues ready. Although a bit controversial, the story tries to remind us, how quickly we can get our priorities wrong. We take busyness as a sign of worthiness. Perfection and consumption replace purpose and connection. The pressure of pleasing others lets us forget the pleasure of just playing together.

The question is: how can we stop this cycle? We can’t just cancel the Holidays or quit our life? Is stress during the Holidays truly unavoidable? Here are a few tips that can help you to make the holidays less stress- and more meaningful:

  • Set your intentions:  Take some time and think about your personal theme for this holiday season. This could be to appreciate the people that are in your life; to celebrate yourself with doing things you enjoy; or to practice acceptance of those, who used to push your buttons in the past.
  • Go deeper: While the holidays are often about eating, drinking and being merry, try to choose a focus that will bring more meaning to you. You could pick a person, who you want to connect with on a deeper level; you could show interest in the lives of others and share more authentically about yourself. Or you may choose to explore your spiritual connection.
  • Practice self-care: Just like with my mother, overdoing and over-giving may be a part of your holiday tradition. This year make sure to remember what is important to you to keep your balance and sanity. Nourish yourself with food that make you feel good; exercise or meditate to stay centered and flexible; take some time alone, when you feel overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle. And try to remind yourself, that you can’t make anyone happy on the back of your own depletion and unhappiness.

Listen to my empowerment radio show and learn effective tools, which allow you to stay relaxed, get more done and truly enjoy this special time of the year.

I wish you and your loved ones a wonderful holiday season and health, peace and happiness for 2016.

Wednesday, December 30th, 2015 Emotional Balance, Mind-Body-Spirit, Positive Thinking Comments Off on What are your priorities for the holidays?

How to stay calm and centered in world that no longer appears safe

11011587_sThe recent acts of terror in Turkey, Egypt, Lebanon and France have left many of us in shock and disbelief.  We can’t fathom the ruthless violence against innocent people, who just returned from a vacation, went shopping in the market or enjoyed a Friday night out.  Considering, that these are only a few of the most recent terrorist attacks, we may start to wonder if the world is no longer safe.

Some react with anger and call to force and retaliation. Others with grief and a sense of hopelessness. But the majority of people feel more anxious and afraid. Vacation plans get cancelled, since traveling abroad seems too risky. People of different faiths and cultures are eyed with great suspicion. And some even demand to shun the hundreds of thousands of desperate refugees that are fleeing from the terrorists themselves.

Of course it is understandable that fear and worry are running rampant these days. But let’s not forget that this is exactly the agenda of terrorism – to make us feel small, powerless and unsafe.  To quote Salman Rushdie “To prove terrorists wrong, we must agree on what matters: kissing in public places, bacon sandwiches, disagreement, cutting-edge fashion, literature, generosity, water, a more equitable distribution of the world’s resources, movies, music, freedom of thought, beauty, love. These will be our weapons.”

Tragic events can make you worried, vigilant and guarded to keep yourself safe. The problem is that constant fear and anxiety drain your energy, cloud your judgments and diminish your confidence, which is the opposite of helping you to stay safe. Here are a few tips that can help you overcome your fears and anxieties and regain a greater sense of calmness and centeredness.

Stop the negativity spiral

Making assumptions is one of the major anxiety triggers. Any thoughts starting with “what if” should give you a clue that you’re about to venture off into a fictional reality. You can get lost thinking through the consequences of terrible disasters or painful losses without realizing that they’re all based on one, frequently unrealistic “what if” assumption. Although you may know that the likelihood of dying in a car crash, drowning in your bathtub or being struck by lightning are significantly higher than becoming the victim of terrorist attack, your mind makes generalizations, ignores certain facts, and over-interprets others, all to concoct stories that are detrimental to your inner peace and well-being. Instead of spiraling into an anxiety triggering negativity spiral, take a deep breath and ask yourself the following three questions: Is this thought true? Does this thought make me feel good? Does this thought help me reach my goals? Each question acts as a reality check and will help you appreciate that entertaining the thought is not only hurtful, but it’s also getting you nowhere.

Counter-balance negative thoughts

I am sure you agree, that your mind is in general active and likes “to move,” which is why stopping a negative thought isn’t enough. What works best is to re-direct the mind with at least three counter-balancing thoughts, that shed light on the opposite, positive points of view.  For example, if your negative thought was Something bad will happen, counterbalances could be: Right now I am OK. There’ve been many times I was worried and everything turned out well.  I have the strength and abilities to handle anything that comes my way.

Positive counterbalancing is training your mind to search for and find uplifting and empowering perspectives for any given situation. However, rather than starting your own inner debating club, engage your heart in the process. For this, consider the source of your anxiety as a vulnerable inner child that just tries to keep you safe. You will notice how much easier it is to speak in a calm, reassuring, and comforting way when you visualize addressing an inner child.  By counterbalancing your negative thoughts with kindness and compassion, you automatically shift your consciousness and attitude from “I’m powerless” to “I’m taking charge.”

Keep perspective and your heart open

The mind, especially the subconscious mind, can’t easily distinguish between reality and fiction. This allows you to get completely engrossed in movies, books and daydreams about the upcoming vacation. On the flip side, when you are glued in front of your TV, following every “breaking story,” your mind may also perceive you in the middle of a war zone or as victims of a disaster. Therefore, limit your time watching the news to a minimum, and try to stay more present with your immediate environment.

Times like this can put life into perspective. Rather than getting upset about minor imperfections or sweating the small stuff, you can take this opportunity to remember what and who is truly important to you. Make spending time with your friends and family a priority.  Embrace even the smallest moments of joy and pleasure, such as a delicious cup of coffee, a warm hug or soft bed. Appreciate the daily blessing of your health, your home and your loved ones, which you may at times just take for granted. Show your humanity and reach out to those who are lonely or need a helping hand. And practice forgiveness and compassion, especially with those you disagree with.

I believe the best way for us to respond to those, who seem to have no regard for life, peace and freedom, is to stay calm, centered and not let anxiety and panic dictate our lives. Or to quote Salman Rushdie again: “Not by making war but by the unafraid way we choose to live shall we defeat them.”

Monday, November 23rd, 2015 Mind-Body-Spirit, Positive Thinking, Stress Comments Off on How to stay calm and centered in world that no longer appears safe

The Power of Inner Connection

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Do you ask yourself sometimes “who am I, and what is my purpose?” Or do you feel torn between how other people perceive you, and what you sense is your authentic truth. I’m invited to speak at the The Power of Inner Connection Tele-summit, a free 10 Day eventwhich focuses on how to tune into your inner wisdom and access the potential of your essence.

Let’s talk about your essence, the core energy of who we are. This idea of a core essence may appear a bit esoteric and a bit “woo woo.” Believe me, my scientific mind was ruffled by this concept when I first got in touch with my own essence. However, what truly astounded me and confirmed my own experiences was that no matter how open minded or skeptical my clients were, when I guided them to connect to their essence, the overwhelming majority described sensing it in the same way—as a brilliant light in their heart.

People commonly associate qualities such as love, compassion, and goodness, as well as strength, joy, and passion, with this core energy.  Although the news these days might lead you to believe that human behavior is largely defined by greed, self-righteousness, and a disregard of the greater good.  There is at least as much evidence testifying to an inherent goodness in all of us. It’s that powerful force that makes us jump into the freezing river to save another human being, or even an animal from drowning. It’s that natural instinct that drives us to reach out and support each other when disaster strikes, as countless stories described people doing after the events on September 11, 2001, Hurricane Katrina, or just now after the horrific earthquake in Nepal.  It’s that inner source that rewards selfless service with a deep sense of joy and fulfillment.  It’s a place from which we can draw love, compassion, and forgiveness, even for those we don’t know or who hurt us the most. This is our core essence.

OK, so maybe you still aren’t sure about the goodness of your essence, because you haven’t saved anybody’s life, you don’t volunteer, and you still can’t forgive your ex. Believe me, you’re being far too hard on yourself. Here’s a way to recognize that you’ve actually been in touch with your pure essence more often than you previously realized.

Take a pen and paper, and write down events of the present and past where you have:

  • Helping-othersAccepted and loved a person or animal without expectations or conditions
  • Forgiven someone out of a sense of kindness and compassion
  • Put your own needs and desires aside and focused solely on another person’s well-being
  • Been completely open and willing to listen, consider, and understand a different point of view
  • Admitted with humility (not shame) that you were wrong
  • Felt touched and inspired by another person’s generosity, patience, acceptance, or selflessness
  • Embraced and appreciated the beauty and the gifts of your life
  • Been in complete peace and harmony with yourself―and the world and people all around you

While you’re revisiting your past, make sure that you’re gentle with yourself. Focus on your potential, and keep in mind that even if these experiences of compassion, love, or peace passed rather quickly, they can still help you find your way back to a deeper connection with the source of those emotions and energies―your essence.

The question is, how can you create a closer relationship with your essence and its powerful resources and make it to your foundation of self on a subconscious and cellular level? The fabulous teachers, healers and authors of the upcoming FREE The Power of Inner Connection Telesummit, will provide you with powerful insights, tips and techniques on how to stay connected and live from and through your inner truth.

Friday, May 1st, 2015 Emotional Balance, Positive Thinking, self-esteem, Upcoming Events Comments Off on The Power of Inner Connection

THE EMPOWERED SELF SERIES PART 13: IS IT TIME TO UPGRADE YOUR BELIEFS?

Closeup Mirror Reflection of a Woman's FaceYou probably have heard the saying: “What holds us back isn’t who we are, but who we think we are.”  Whether we perceive a situation as “failure” or just “feedback,” “obstacle” or “opportunity,” “no” or “not yet” depends largely on our beliefs. Some beliefs give us wings, unleash our creative genius and help us to dig deep when the going gets tough. Others can be the prison walls of our mind, which keep us locked in our imagined limitations. Don’t you admire those people, who exhibit a relentless drive towards reaching their goals and don’t even blink in the face of a set-back?

Take Russell Wilson as an example. Being only 5’11” he was told that he was too small to be successful player in the National Football League. Yet, he ignored the nay-sayers and continued to focus on pursuing the dream of his life. Last year, after only two years playing professional football, he became one of the youngest – and shortest– quarterbacks to win the Super Bowl with his team. In interviews he often credits his positive outlook, daily visualizations and his unwavering belief that despite his physical limitations he would be able to achieve greatness as the keys to his success.

So if beliefs can make the impossible reachable, why doesn’t everybody use empowering beliefs as leverage to success? On my personal journey and in working with my clients, I found that there are three common obstacles that can make changing limiting beliefs into empowering ones difficult:

We don’t know that we are trapped in a limiting belief

Beliefs are anchored on the level of the subconscious mind and act as filters that shape and usually distort our sense of reality. For example, if you have a belief that “you are a loser” you are more likely to interpret any obstacle in your way as a reason to give up. Or you may believe that “the world is harsh and unfriendly”; as a consequence you take every little criticism as a huge rejection, and ignore those people who love and adore you. If you have been seeing yourself or the world around you through these limiting filters for quite some time, you may not even realize that you are dealing with a warped perception of reality. I often hear people saying, “I don’t have any limiting beliefs; I just know that I can’t have what I want.” One way of identifying your limiting beliefs is to write down all your negative thoughts in the course of one week. You will notice that most of your thoughts circle around only two or three different topics. Ask yourself what you need to believe about these topics to think so negatively and you will have identified some of your limiting beliefs.

We don’t know how to choose a new belief

As a belief can shape our reality, it can also become our identity. And when you see yourself as a “loser” or the world as a “harsh and unfriendly place” it can be challenging to envision a more positive perspective. If you would choose to believe “I am a winner” or “everyone is friendly and kind” your subconscious mind would probably reject those beliefs as unrealistic fantasies. This is why it can be helpful to gently stretch your belief-system, rather than deflate yourself with too lofty ideas. So instead of calling yourself a “loser” you may decide to consider yourself as a “learner,” who is eager to grow and empower himself. And in regards to your relationship to the world around you, how about believing that “you will be a positive and healing force in it”? The goal is to expand your perception and stretch yourself out of the familiar comfort zone, while feeling motivated and excited to grow into the next bigger version of yourself.

We don’t feed our new beliefs

The greatest obstacle between an idea and its execution is doubt. Although you have decided to focus on a new, more empowering belief, you may doubt the validity of the new belief, while the familiar, limiting perspective of yourself appears still more realistic. The best way to alleviate this doubt is to collect supportive evidence that shows you that you possess the potential and inner resources to truly become the self you envision. For example to reinforce the notion of being a “learner” you can write down ten skills you acquired throughout your life, or ten times you have been facing challenges and what you have learned from dealing with them. In regards to being “a positive force in the world” you could ask the people that know you and care about you, what they love and appreciate about you. In looking for such supporting evidence, you will likely gain a broader, kinder, and more complete perspective of yourself and your potential.  

Having said all that, when it comes to changing our limiting beliefs, the single most important step is to accept that that nobody but ourselves can hold us back from growing into our empowered selves.

 
Friday, January 16th, 2015 conscious awareness, Conscious Mind, Consciousness, Emotional Balance, Positive Thinking, self-esteem Comments Off on THE EMPOWERED SELF SERIES PART 13: IS IT TIME TO UPGRADE YOUR BELIEFS?

The Empowered Self Series: Part 10-Healthy Boundaries Start From Within

boundariesDo you have boundary issues? For many people setting boundaries is more uncomfortable than enduring the pain of getting disrespected or walked all over. The desire to please and the ensuing fear of rejection can thwart any efforts to speak up, push back and stand up for oneself. However, the challenge with boundaries isn’t only how to enforce them, but also to recognize when they are invaded. There are three ways in which your boundaries can be breached.

The first and most direct one is, when people simply disregard your limits. A part from physical and verbal abuse, there are many less aggressive ways in which others, consciously or unconsciously, can step across your boundaries. For example, some people don’t accept your “no“ for an answer; they continue to bombard you with probing questions, although you indicate that your uncomfortable answering them. Others assume that you are always available for them and ignore your need for privacy. Or you may have encountered those, who expect you to fulfill their needs and if you don’t punish you with rejection and blame. You know that your boundaries have been aggressively broken, when you feel small and powerless.

The second more subtle boundary invasion occurs when people don’t accept you and the choices you are making. Let’s say, you just start feeling good about the positive changes you have been making, but your family seems to prefer the “old” you. Or your excitement about your new interest gets squashed by your colleague’s eye-roll. And when you get together with your friends, they usually get a kick out of making fun of you, no matter how embarrassed you become. These subtle ways in which boundaries get overstepped often hurt the most and leave you feeling insecure and ashamed of yourself.

The third breakdown of your boundaries occurs purely on an emotional and energetic level. Perhaps you routinely feel overwhelmed and drained after going to the mall or a social gathering. A colleague having a bad day can leave you feeling deflated and depressed as well. Or you find yourself still thinking about work on Saturday morning, because a difficult conversation with a client from a few days ago is still weighing on you. If you think about yourself as being sensitive, you are probably familiar with this form of boundary breakdown. You tend to absorb and become entangled with the emotions and energies of others and thus lose touch with your center. As result you feel easily overwhelmed and unsafe in the outside world.

But no matter how your boundaries get invaded, your natural reaction may have been to either attack or avoid those, who crossed them. However, are confrontation or retreat really the best ways to strengthen your boundaries? Let’s take your health as an analogy; the most effective way to avoid getting a cold isn’t chasing bugs with disinfectants or stop leaving the house, but to strengthen your immune system.

Monday, October 13th, 2014 Healing Team, Human Body, Mind, Personal Breakthrough and Empowerment, Positive Thinking Comments Off on The Empowered Self Series: Part 10-Healthy Boundaries Start From Within

3 Most Common Ways We Give Our Power Away

ID-100210227How often have you felt powerless in your life – victimized by people or circumstances, drained by obligations and expectations, stuck in situations that felt out of your control to change? Feeling powerless can happen to all of us and it is one of the most common causes for anxiety and depression. 
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But although we feel as if someone or something outside of us has taken our power and is in control of us, in reality we are usually giving our power away, often without noticing that we do. Early on in our lives, when we completely depend on the adults around us, our subconscious mind develops three distinct survival patterns; to avoid, to please and to control. These deeply engrained patterns are the major reasons, even as adults, we still lose our power.  
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Avoiders are very sensitive to criticism, rejection and failure. They try to escape potential hurt through making themselves smaller or even invisible. They hide in a small and controllable comfort zone and preemptively loath and bash themselves, before anyone else can do this to them. Outside of their refuge, avoiders vigilantly scan their surroundings for any signs of judgment or danger. Being keenly aware of their surroundings, they often absorb other people’s energies and emotions, which makes them feel easily overwhelmed and even less safe.  Avoiders don’t only give their powers to the assumed threats from the outside, they also deny themselves any sense of empowerment, because in their mind feeling confident and positive only increase the risk of getting hurt.  
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Pleasers discover that their best bet to escape painful rejection or abandonment is to make sure that everyone is “ok” with them. Their pleasing behavior can range from being the chameleon, who is able to fit in everywhere; the care-taker, who feels overly responsible for others, to the perfectionist or overachiever, who needs other people’s approval and adoration to feel safe and secure. Pleasers give their power away by making their sense of safety and worthiness dependent on the approval of others. In contrast to avoiders, pleasers seek connection and are afraid of being alone, because on a subconscious level, they have no solid relationship with themselves, and therefore believe that they can’t make it on their own.
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Controllers want to establish a sense of safety, and strive to micromanage all aspects of their lives. In the extreme they can take on the role of being the authority and strictly enforce their ideas and rules through anger, threats and punishment. By controlling others through instilling a sense of insecurity and powerlessness, they feel more empowered and secure. However, underneath this dominating behavior often reside profound feelings of inferiority, vulnerability and pain, which stem from traumas and confusion from their childhood. Like avoiders and pleasers, controllers ultimately drain their power trying to manage their deep-seated anxieties and lack of self-worth through focusing on the world outside of them.
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Now, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong per se with any of these patterns. In fact, most of us utilize them in various aspects of our lives. We may please our boss at work to increase our chances for a promotion; we may avoid the complaining neighbor next door; and we may feel the need to control our kids or the new puppy, when they don’t behave the way we want them to.
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The problem arises, when we are unconsciously relying on these strategies to cope with our own anxieties and insecurities. Because no matter how many people we have avoided or kept successfully at arm’s length; and no matter how many we have “wowed,” made happy or controlled – in the end we may still end up feeling powerless.  We have been defining ourselves through circumstances and people around us, and thus making them more important than ourselves.
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Listen to my upcoming interview on February 19 and discover how and why you give you still give power away – and what you can do to stop these patterns.

Friday, February 14th, 2014 conscious awareness, Conscious Mind, Consciousness, Positive Thinking, self-esteem, Subconscious Mind Comments Off on 3 Most Common Ways We Give Our Power Away

End of Year

It is a common perception that the older we get the faster time is rushing by. So like many others, you may have found yourself once again rather surprised that 2013 is over. Where did all the days and months go? Of course the pace of time hasn’t changed this year – an hour still consisted of 60 minutes, a day of 24 hours and the year of 365 days. However, what may have gradually changed is your awareness of what you have experienced in the course of a day. For some of you the year may have dashed by in the wake of an insanely busy schedule; others may have experienced 2013 in a blur, through boredom or the grind of their daily routines. Or you may find yourself among those, who couldn’t wait for this year to be over – because for you it was filled with difficult challenges, painful endings or draining uncertainties. So you just want to forget about it and hope for a better 2014.

The question is, can we really afford to be so “generously” careless with our time? Shouldn’t every passing year remind us of the inevitable impermanence of our existence? Part of the problem is that we don’t take the time to acknowledge our successes, appreciate our blessings and embrace the growth we have made. So what if 2013 has been an incredibly rich and meaningful year for you – you just have not yet noticed it? But it is never too late.

As a part of our New Year’s eve tradition, Danielle and I spend some time reflecting back on the past year – and setting our intentions for the coming one. Reflecting on the last 12 months will give you a greater sense of completetion and resolution. And when you set clear intentions for the coming year something magical happens. Even if you don’t look again at what you have written until the end of 2014, you will be amazed about how much of what you have been intending actually came to pass – whether this is a testimony to the power of intentions or the law of attraction, or whether you have just programmed your subconscious mind for you to find and create what you want.

So take a time out, grab a pen and paper and contemplate the following questions. Don’t overthink it but write from your heart.

  • What were your highlights of last year?
  • What accomplishments did you create?
  • What lessons did you learn?
  • What were the blessings you experienced?
  • What are your desires and intentions for 2014?
  • What are your top 5 goals for this coming year?
  • What is your theme for 2014?

By ending this year acknowledging its gifts and learning opportunities and entering the new one focusing on your goals and desires, you are taking ownership on what you have and on what you will experience during that time.

I wish you and your loved ones a happy and blessed 2014,

Friday, January 3rd, 2014 conscious awareness, Consciousness, Positive Thinking, Self-Healing Comments Off on End of Year
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