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The Power of Inner Connection

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Do you ask yourself sometimes “who am I, and what is my purpose?” Or do you feel torn between how other people perceive you, and what you sense is your authentic truth. I’m invited to speak at the The Power of Inner Connection Tele-summit, a free 10 Day eventwhich focuses on how to tune into your inner wisdom and access the potential of your essence.

Let’s talk about your essence, the core energy of who we are. This idea of a core essence may appear a bit esoteric and a bit “woo woo.” Believe me, my scientific mind was ruffled by this concept when I first got in touch with my own essence. However, what truly astounded me and confirmed my own experiences was that no matter how open minded or skeptical my clients were, when I guided them to connect to their essence, the overwhelming majority described sensing it in the same way—as a brilliant light in their heart.

People commonly associate qualities such as love, compassion, and goodness, as well as strength, joy, and passion, with this core energy.  Although the news these days might lead you to believe that human behavior is largely defined by greed, self-righteousness, and a disregard of the greater good.  There is at least as much evidence testifying to an inherent goodness in all of us. It’s that powerful force that makes us jump into the freezing river to save another human being, or even an animal from drowning. It’s that natural instinct that drives us to reach out and support each other when disaster strikes, as countless stories described people doing after the events on September 11, 2001, Hurricane Katrina, or just now after the horrific earthquake in Nepal.  It’s that inner source that rewards selfless service with a deep sense of joy and fulfillment.  It’s a place from which we can draw love, compassion, and forgiveness, even for those we don’t know or who hurt us the most. This is our core essence.

OK, so maybe you still aren’t sure about the goodness of your essence, because you haven’t saved anybody’s life, you don’t volunteer, and you still can’t forgive your ex. Believe me, you’re being far too hard on yourself. Here’s a way to recognize that you’ve actually been in touch with your pure essence more often than you previously realized.

Take a pen and paper, and write down events of the present and past where you have:

  • Helping-othersAccepted and loved a person or animal without expectations or conditions
  • Forgiven someone out of a sense of kindness and compassion
  • Put your own needs and desires aside and focused solely on another person’s well-being
  • Been completely open and willing to listen, consider, and understand a different point of view
  • Admitted with humility (not shame) that you were wrong
  • Felt touched and inspired by another person’s generosity, patience, acceptance, or selflessness
  • Embraced and appreciated the beauty and the gifts of your life
  • Been in complete peace and harmony with yourself―and the world and people all around you

While you’re revisiting your past, make sure that you’re gentle with yourself. Focus on your potential, and keep in mind that even if these experiences of compassion, love, or peace passed rather quickly, they can still help you find your way back to a deeper connection with the source of those emotions and energies―your essence.

The question is, how can you create a closer relationship with your essence and its powerful resources and make it to your foundation of self on a subconscious and cellular level? The fabulous teachers, healers and authors of the upcoming FREE The Power of Inner Connection Telesummit, will provide you with powerful insights, tips and techniques on how to stay connected and live from and through your inner truth.

Friday, May 1st, 2015 Emotional Balance, Positive Thinking, self-esteem, Upcoming Events Comments Off on The Power of Inner Connection

THE EMPOWERED SELF SERIES PART 13: IS IT TIME TO UPGRADE YOUR BELIEFS?

Closeup Mirror Reflection of a Woman's FaceYou probably have heard the saying: “What holds us back isn’t who we are, but who we think we are.”  Whether we perceive a situation as “failure” or just “feedback,” “obstacle” or “opportunity,” “no” or “not yet” depends largely on our beliefs. Some beliefs give us wings, unleash our creative genius and help us to dig deep when the going gets tough. Others can be the prison walls of our mind, which keep us locked in our imagined limitations. Don’t you admire those people, who exhibit a relentless drive towards reaching their goals and don’t even blink in the face of a set-back?

Take Russell Wilson as an example. Being only 5’11” he was told that he was too small to be successful player in the National Football League. Yet, he ignored the nay-sayers and continued to focus on pursuing the dream of his life. Last year, after only two years playing professional football, he became one of the youngest – and shortest– quarterbacks to win the Super Bowl with his team. In interviews he often credits his positive outlook, daily visualizations and his unwavering belief that despite his physical limitations he would be able to achieve greatness as the keys to his success.

So if beliefs can make the impossible reachable, why doesn’t everybody use empowering beliefs as leverage to success? On my personal journey and in working with my clients, I found that there are three common obstacles that can make changing limiting beliefs into empowering ones difficult:

We don’t know that we are trapped in a limiting belief

Beliefs are anchored on the level of the subconscious mind and act as filters that shape and usually distort our sense of reality. For example, if you have a belief that “you are a loser” you are more likely to interpret any obstacle in your way as a reason to give up. Or you may believe that “the world is harsh and unfriendly”; as a consequence you take every little criticism as a huge rejection, and ignore those people who love and adore you. If you have been seeing yourself or the world around you through these limiting filters for quite some time, you may not even realize that you are dealing with a warped perception of reality. I often hear people saying, “I don’t have any limiting beliefs; I just know that I can’t have what I want.” One way of identifying your limiting beliefs is to write down all your negative thoughts in the course of one week. You will notice that most of your thoughts circle around only two or three different topics. Ask yourself what you need to believe about these topics to think so negatively and you will have identified some of your limiting beliefs.

We don’t know how to choose a new belief

As a belief can shape our reality, it can also become our identity. And when you see yourself as a “loser” or the world as a “harsh and unfriendly place” it can be challenging to envision a more positive perspective. If you would choose to believe “I am a winner” or “everyone is friendly and kind” your subconscious mind would probably reject those beliefs as unrealistic fantasies. This is why it can be helpful to gently stretch your belief-system, rather than deflate yourself with too lofty ideas. So instead of calling yourself a “loser” you may decide to consider yourself as a “learner,” who is eager to grow and empower himself. And in regards to your relationship to the world around you, how about believing that “you will be a positive and healing force in it”? The goal is to expand your perception and stretch yourself out of the familiar comfort zone, while feeling motivated and excited to grow into the next bigger version of yourself.

We don’t feed our new beliefs

The greatest obstacle between an idea and its execution is doubt. Although you have decided to focus on a new, more empowering belief, you may doubt the validity of the new belief, while the familiar, limiting perspective of yourself appears still more realistic. The best way to alleviate this doubt is to collect supportive evidence that shows you that you possess the potential and inner resources to truly become the self you envision. For example to reinforce the notion of being a “learner” you can write down ten skills you acquired throughout your life, or ten times you have been facing challenges and what you have learned from dealing with them. In regards to being “a positive force in the world” you could ask the people that know you and care about you, what they love and appreciate about you. In looking for such supporting evidence, you will likely gain a broader, kinder, and more complete perspective of yourself and your potential.  

Having said all that, when it comes to changing our limiting beliefs, the single most important step is to accept that that nobody but ourselves can hold us back from growing into our empowered selves.

 
Friday, January 16th, 2015 conscious awareness, Conscious Mind, Consciousness, Emotional Balance, Positive Thinking, self-esteem Comments Off on THE EMPOWERED SELF SERIES PART 13: IS IT TIME TO UPGRADE YOUR BELIEFS?

Stress Solutions Summit

With all the distractions of today’s busy modern culture and the fast pace of our life styles, stress has become an all too common influence upon our health and well-being. It is often the primary cause of physical, mental and emotional dis-ease, and that is why a summit like this is so relevant and important in these times.

Friedemann-Schaubb-600x400-Affiliate-Stress-Solutions-Summit I will be joined by some of the most knowledgeable relaxation and stress management masters on the planet, including Dr. Norm Shealy, Mary Manin Morrissey, Derek Rydall, Donna Eden, Dr. Mario Martinez, Dr. Theresa Dale, and others. Along with these guests and Lisa Garr, I will present inspiring and practical techniques for minimizing stress and the harmful disorders it can cause. This Summit will help you to transcend your current challenges and move to a lasting peace, increased abundance, longevity, health and contentment. My interview will broadcast on Thursday, December 4th, at 1:00 PM Pacific Standard Time, and I sincerely hope you will tune in. If you have a desire to create a better life, that stems from a calm cool center within yourself, you will be delighted with this practical information that we’re going to bring you! Reserve your seat by clicking here.

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3 Most Common Ways We Give Our Power Away

ID-100210227How often have you felt powerless in your life – victimized by people or circumstances, drained by obligations and expectations, stuck in situations that felt out of your control to change? Feeling powerless can happen to all of us and it is one of the most common causes for anxiety and depression. 
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But although we feel as if someone or something outside of us has taken our power and is in control of us, in reality we are usually giving our power away, often without noticing that we do. Early on in our lives, when we completely depend on the adults around us, our subconscious mind develops three distinct survival patterns; to avoid, to please and to control. These deeply engrained patterns are the major reasons, even as adults, we still lose our power.  
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Avoiders are very sensitive to criticism, rejection and failure. They try to escape potential hurt through making themselves smaller or even invisible. They hide in a small and controllable comfort zone and preemptively loath and bash themselves, before anyone else can do this to them. Outside of their refuge, avoiders vigilantly scan their surroundings for any signs of judgment or danger. Being keenly aware of their surroundings, they often absorb other people’s energies and emotions, which makes them feel easily overwhelmed and even less safe.  Avoiders don’t only give their powers to the assumed threats from the outside, they also deny themselves any sense of empowerment, because in their mind feeling confident and positive only increase the risk of getting hurt.  
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Pleasers discover that their best bet to escape painful rejection or abandonment is to make sure that everyone is “ok” with them. Their pleasing behavior can range from being the chameleon, who is able to fit in everywhere; the care-taker, who feels overly responsible for others, to the perfectionist or overachiever, who needs other people’s approval and adoration to feel safe and secure. Pleasers give their power away by making their sense of safety and worthiness dependent on the approval of others. In contrast to avoiders, pleasers seek connection and are afraid of being alone, because on a subconscious level, they have no solid relationship with themselves, and therefore believe that they can’t make it on their own.
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Controllers want to establish a sense of safety, and strive to micromanage all aspects of their lives. In the extreme they can take on the role of being the authority and strictly enforce their ideas and rules through anger, threats and punishment. By controlling others through instilling a sense of insecurity and powerlessness, they feel more empowered and secure. However, underneath this dominating behavior often reside profound feelings of inferiority, vulnerability and pain, which stem from traumas and confusion from their childhood. Like avoiders and pleasers, controllers ultimately drain their power trying to manage their deep-seated anxieties and lack of self-worth through focusing on the world outside of them.
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Now, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong per se with any of these patterns. In fact, most of us utilize them in various aspects of our lives. We may please our boss at work to increase our chances for a promotion; we may avoid the complaining neighbor next door; and we may feel the need to control our kids or the new puppy, when they don’t behave the way we want them to.
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The problem arises, when we are unconsciously relying on these strategies to cope with our own anxieties and insecurities. Because no matter how many people we have avoided or kept successfully at arm’s length; and no matter how many we have “wowed,” made happy or controlled – in the end we may still end up feeling powerless.  We have been defining ourselves through circumstances and people around us, and thus making them more important than ourselves.
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Listen to my upcoming interview on February 19 and discover how and why you give you still give power away – and what you can do to stop these patterns.

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Looking at the brighter side: How to become a realistic optimist

woman 1Since the invention of tableware humans have been arguing about a simple, but important question: Is the glass half full or half empty? For many people being optimistic and thinking positively feels as unfamiliar as brushing teeth with their non-dominant hand. They feel more comfortable approaching the world expecting the worst rather than entertaining the “unrealistic” idea that everything will work out fine. Whether we are fundamentally optimistic or pessimistic is largely determined by the imprints we received during our childhood. Well-intended messages such as “life is hard and unfair,” “always be prepared for the worst” and “never rely on anyone,” can significantly shape our perspective and expectations on the world and ourselves. This general notation of struggle and uneasiness is further reinforced by the gloom and doom reports of most media outlets. And although it isn’t enjoyable to live in such a mind-set, a pessimist is convinced that it is better to be realistic and prepared than to fool themselves with too positive expectations. But is this notion really true? Is optimism really just wishful thinking, as unrealistic as living in Disneyland, or always having dessert first?.

Research has actually shown that negative thoughts and emotions, which are aimed to keep us safe, in general limit access to our creativity. From an evolutionary perspective it makes sense that our brain is programmed to focus on just a few options, when it comes to avoiding or defending oneself from predators, like running away, climbing a tree, or throwing a stone. But since we don’t usually deal with saber-toothed tigers, does a worried and bleak frame of mind really serve us? In fact in order to thrive and succeed in our fast-changing world, creativity and flexibility are some of the most valuable assets – assets, which are easier accessible by a positive mind-set. Recent studies demonstrated that with positive thoughts and emotions, such as joy, contentment and love, we are able to identify a much greater number of possibilities and solutions for a given problem than with a stressed and negative mental state. A positive attitude also increases our ability to acquire new skills and develop internal resources.

However, if your mind is used to always expect the worst, how can you turn it into a more positive and optimistic direction, without feeling you are losing touch with reality?

Listen to my radio interview here and learn how you can train your mind to naturally seek and find opportunities for more joy, creativity and success.

Saturday, November 9th, 2013 Mind-Body-Spirit, Positive Thinking, self-esteem Comments Off on Looking at the brighter side: How to become a realistic optimist

Raise Your Self-Esteem—Receiving the Energy of Love

council-of-light-3dThrough Danielle Rama Hoffman’s advanced spiritual work with Thoth, she was introduced to the Council of Light—an intergalactic group of thousands of light beings from across the Multiverse. Their purpose is to support individuals as they shift into Unity Consciousness and return to their natural state of joy. The Council transmitted the teachings in this book for those seeking to accelerate their journey toward health, wealth, happiness, and their soul’s deepest desires. Order today and receive an array of valuable gifts www.counciloflightbook.com.

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Focus on the space in between your shoulder blades on the back of your body behind your heart chakra. Imagine that there is an emerald-green spiral of energy that is about three feet away from the back of your heart center. This energy portal is spiraling and absorbing any tension in between your shoulders related to feelings of having to watch your own back, any constriction or contraction around receiving, and in particular any discord or dissonant energy that is not in alignment with the emotion of love as well as the pure vibration and essence of love.

From our perspective there is no such thing as worthiness and unworthiness. It is not a matter of you needing to change at all in order to be able to receive love and energy. It is simply a decision on your part whether to receive love. Within your mind’s eye decide to receive the energy of love knowing that you are safe and that your physiology has natural capabilities of discerning and filtering what is in your highest and best good and what isn’t.

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Excerpt from The Council of Light: Divine Transmissions for Manifesting the Deepest Desires of the Soul By Danielle Rama Hoffman

Danielle Rama Hoffman is an ancient wisdom keeper, divine transmitter, and a leader in the shift into Unity Consciousness. She is the author of The Temples of Light and The Council of Light and creator of Divine Transmissions Inc. She provides energy facilitation and consciousness coaching to empower empaths, visionaries and new thought leaders to prosperously share their purpose and manifest the deepest desires of their soul.

 

Wednesday, October 30th, 2013 self-esteem, The Council of Light Comments Off on Raise Your Self-Esteem—Receiving the Energy of Love

More on How to Reset Your Subconscious to Confidence and Self-Esteem

Some topics are so important they need to be addressed more than once and from different angles. The enormous response to last month’s radio show (click here to listen to the recording) pointed out that lack of confidence and self-esteem is one of the most common and challenging obstacles in life. What usually prevents us from having success, love, joy and fulfillment are self-limiting beliefs such as “I am not good enough” or “I can’t have what I want”, which are programmed into our subconscious minds. No matter how ambitious we are and how much potential we have, as long as we are holding onto self-limiting beliefs, we will continue to feel “less than” or “undeserving.” However, while letting go of these non-supportive core beliefs is crucial, it is equally important to replace them with new, self-empowering beliefs. But how do you do this? During my upcoming radio show I will talk about the steps to effectively re-program your subconscious mind from limiting beliefs and establish a solid foundation of confidence and self-esteem.

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Reset your subconscious mind to confidence and self-esteem

There’s a common saying, “What holds us back is not who we really are, but who we think we are.” However, if you have ever struggled with insecurity and low self-worth you’ve probably experienced first-hand that you can’t simply think or talk yourself out of these feelings. Even if everybody else tells you that you are a great person – when it comes to self-doubt, logic and rational thinking don’t apply. Why? Because the root of our insecurities is anchored in our subconscious programming in the form of limiting beliefs such as “I am not good enough” or “I don’t fit in.” Our beliefs determine not only how we feel about ourselves but also how we show up in life and what results we are able to achieve. But how do we access our subconscious and how do we change its mind?

Listen here and learn the keys on how to reprogram your subconscious mind to greater confidence and self-empowerment.

Monday, April 9th, 2012 Emotional Balance, Mind-Body-Spirit, self-esteem Comments Off on Reset your subconscious mind to confidence and self-esteem
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